Be honest ladies, when was the last time you had ribs!? Lol @kiyahwright1 @everlylee @jazmatik
Woke up at 5am this morning–somehow makes sense today… 😳
The only way to cure yourself of temptation is to yield to it… (at Flour + Tea)
Lat #breakfast, but happy I did it! 😀 How did you start your day? (at FigOly)
Started the morning with a sunrise–#inspired! What inspires you in the morning?
Breakfast of Champions?? @kiyahwright1 (at Bottega Louie)
Early morning #Work by the water… I want the white one! ;) (at The Ritz-Carlton, Marina Del Rey)
You know you’ve been there, it’s late at night, you’ve had some drinks, shared some laughs and he’s super Sexy Hot! As more time goes by and alcohol consumed, a voice in your head argues the reasons why it’s okay to go home with him, that it’s perfectly normal, in fact, absolutely chic. “You’re adults,” the voice chirps, “and you can tell he likes you, alot” … and you’re off, moments later so are your clothes.
In the sobering morning hours, as you fast track your walk of shame, you’re feeling rather un-chic, ‘cause you actually like him and now that same little voice is sporting a big old attitude, pointy finger and all, sayin “…girl you messed up.”
Good news is, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! If you date long enough, you’re going to have moments of weakness and moments you wish you could take back, so don’t spend precious time beating yourself up.
If you really like the guy, then the important aspect here is to focus on making the most of the situation and finding out if he is truly a man you can include in your long-term planning.
Here are 4 steps to get back on track:
1. Invite him out for some candid conversation (coffee shops are normally perfect for this type of thing). Location and timing are important, because you don’t want to have a repeat performance of the “accidental sex session” …
2. Set the tone quickly; your attitude for the conversation must be fun, open-minded and direct. Simply let him know that you had a great time, but you really want something more substantial than a sexual fling. The key here is to be honest about how you felt that night and be generous with compliments; men get self-conscious too, so compliments will help prevent him from worrying that you may just be trying to “let him down” softly after a bad sexual performance on his part.
3. Encourage him to be honest and be prepared for any answer that he may give. This is a critical step, because fostering honest and open dialogue is the foundation of great relationships.
4. Ask him questions that will help you understand his true intentions with you. if he says, “I only want sex,” don’t get mad; he’s simply being honest. If, on the other hand, he says, “I want to explore a meaningful relationship” be happy, but also be cautiously optimistic; the hard part has just begun.
Along with great feelings, sex comes with chemical reactions that will quite often seriously impair your dating judgment, so set a personal timeframe for yourself and how you want the physical aspects of your relationship to evolve. Let him know that you want to take a little more time to get to know him before you hop back in the sack. If he’s truly worth your time, HE’LL WAIT! Good luck getting back on track …
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